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How To Handle Events That Change Your Life Course

There are many events that can take place in life and alter our course.

Some examples are:

  • Divorce/Ending of a Relationship
  • Care Giving
  • Illness/Death
  • Career Change/Retirement

Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with these life changes.

It’s not unusual during these different stages to try and manage our emotions in an effort to comfort ourselves and feel better.  Unfortunately we may not make the best decisions at the time and end up overeating, overspending and over drinking.  All of which lead to clutter of the body, mind and environment.

We can also feel pure exhaustion and overwhelm and find it difficult to get things done that used to be part of our usual routine. This can include our household chores as well as our own self-care.

We are all human and there will be times when we will hurt. This is when we realize just how fragile we are.  Being kind and patient with ourselves is key for our well-being.

As we begin to heal, we accept that life has changed and we find ourselves asking questions, such as:

What are the changes I need to make and how do I go about doing it?

Each person is different, therefore determining the proper strategy for your needs are unique to you.  Working with a life coach to help you figure things out just might be the first step in the right direction.

If you’re interested, I’d like to offer you a free, no obligation consultation.  Together we can discuss what changes are necessary for you to overcome the obstacles you are now facing.

Insight is invaluable.  Inspiration is powerful.  Action is life changing.

I hope to hear from you.

You can schedule your appointment with me HERE!

 

When Decluttering Evokes Painful Memories

When Decluttering Evokes Painful Memories

Although there is a sense of rebirth and freedom when decluttering your life – it is not always an easy process for someone who is grieving. There are many reasons why we may grieve; divorce or relationship break-up, empty nest, loss of a career, illness or death.

Sometimes we can unearth memories while decluttering which can be extremely emotional and trigger old wounds. When this happens, it can cause us to pause and reflect for awhile. Depending upon the severity of the grief will determine how much time is needed to get back on track.

In some circumstances, a grieving person will choose to declutter ruthlessly in an attempt to remove the pain caused by the loss. The thought is…better to be gone with it than to face a constant reminder of what I lost. While for others, the very onset of decluttering is like living the loss all over again and they become immobilized.

I offer strategies on how to cope with decluttering and grief in my book, Organically Yours; Open Yourself to a Vibrant Healthy Life.   If you or a loved one is struggling with grief, perhaps the book may be helpful. If you would prefer to get personalized help, please connect with me here.

THE SECRET TO LETTING GO (WHEN YOU’RE HOLDING ON TOO TIGHT)

THE SECRET TO LETTING GO (When You’re Holding On Too Tight)

It’s been said that, “nothing lasts forever.”  Perhaps that’s why we desperately hold on so tight.

We know there is a cycle to life; that our youth vanishes, our children grow up, our parents age, and one day we will pass on.  Yet, we try to hold on even tighter.

Of course, the more we hold on, the more pain we feel as things fade, disappear, and die around us. And sometimes the tighter our grasp, the more these things happen.

Think about this in the context of a relationship.  Imagine someone who is exceptionally clingy. They are so preoccupied with all the terrible things they think can go wrong, that they miss the opportunity to fully love.  Eventually, the relationship has no recourse but to end.

What about the person who holds on for dear life to their physical things? Instead of enjoying and making use of what they already have, they are too busy acquiring more out of fear something will happen to their existing stuff.  Control now replaces the caring of their things.

If we probe further, there is usually a story that is deeply connected to why we insist on holding on so tight.  A story, no doubt, that could benefit from healing.
The secret to letting go is believing that you will be okay once you do.  I understand this is easier said than done. But it’s the truth.
If you knew for certain that all would be okay if you let go, would it make a huge difference in your life?  I’m sure it would.   I say this with confidence because I am living it.
In my upcoming tel-class I will be sharing with you how I got through the most difficult of times and how you can too.
I will also be inviting you to a workshop that I am hosting in January of 2018.  My goal is to prepare you now so you can schedule your plans accordingly to attend this ground-breaking event.
Please join me in this upcoming tel-class to learn more!

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