Super excited to be part of Author’s Night at Barnes & Noble, Bridgewater, NJ and surrounded by such gifted writers. Come on out for an eventful evening. I would just love to see you!
Date: October 21, 2017
Time: 5:00 – 8:00 PM
Location: Barnes & Noble, Bridgewater, NJ
Grab all the details here: http://bit.ly/2xc3Rnj
I talk to a lot of people who dream of becoming an Author.
As a Coach, I’m very familiar with the patterns that hold people back from making their dreams come true.
A common worry people have is: “Why would anyone be interested in what I have to say? What gives me the authority to write a book?”
Well, you know what I say about that: “There’s a book inside of all of us. And this makes us qualified to write our little hearts out.”
You see, what holds most people back from fulfilling their wildest dream of writing a book is fear of rejection. But once the writer comes out – well, there’s no stopping these people. They go on to being published authors!
Case in point:
Barbara, my client, had a long time dream of writing a book. She battled with the same common worries of rejection. Consequently she doubted her writing ability and lacked self-confidence.
Most people would “Give Up!” But, Not Barbara!
With the proper coaching and mentoring, she saw these struggles for what they were. Just fears. Once she started to learn the strategies and skill sets needed to pursue her writing dreams, Barbara soared!
Today she is the proud author of Memorare; Reflections on a Life of Love and Friendship
Now, instead of staying hidden in her fear, she is an inspiration to many people.
Yes, Barbara had to do the work, but the point is she learned how to push through her fears to get to her dreams.
See how this works?
So remember, you have a book inside of you too!
Now, let’s see how Barbara was able to turn this all around. Register below for my upcoming class where she will be sharing her inspirational story…
Today, I have in my hands, the final proof of my next book, Blissful Organization – A Guide to Simple Living! Proofreading and making sure everything is just right is somehow a lot of responsibility, yet at the same time, it’s like creating a masterpiece that you are so proud of and can’t wait to share.
I guess it’s what I have been teaching all along within the Keep It Simple Now principles – which is, everything is a process – it takes time to go through each phase and step – and through it, you learn something more about yourself – maybe sometimes, you might even find inner strength that you never thought possible.
Here is what I do know…the end result, the final product, well, that’s simply amazing. Whether it’s writing a book, getting your house in order, developing your business, or conquering a project, it’s an accomplishment that started out as a thought – turned into a vision – and then into your very own creation. How awesome is that!
While sitting opposite from one another during our scheduled work session, a relatively seasoned client of mine looked directly at me and said “I think I like it better when I write in my own personal handwriting rather than you printing out labels for me.”
“OK” I said. “May I ask why?”
“I think I find it too impersonal and sterile. I find myself feeling more drawn to the files and want to pick them up when I see my own signature rather than unfamiliar printing.”
Since we already established a relationship with one another, I felt comfortable enough to ask her if there was anything else she wanted to let me know.
“Well, as a matter of fact,” she said, “I think I would really like it if I could try working for a while just on my own, while you sit there. Is that alright with you?”
I smiled back at her and said “Of course. Take your time and let’s see how it goes.” We agreed that we would try this for one hour without talking unless she needed my input.
As I sat there, I started to imagine what it would be like for me to have my assistant just sit in my office while I worked. But that image didn’t last long for me. Unlike my client, I am an active participant when it comes to my work and like to engage and interact with my staff and also require and enjoy their input and feedback.
So, I started to question in my mind what was really going on for my client. Was she beginning to feel more secure in her own sense of style and wanted to try it out while I was present or was it something more profound than this?
Fifty minutes into the hour, she asked if I would like a cup of tea. Sure I said, that sounds good right about now.
We took about a 15-minute break and sat outside on her deck. We talked about the weather, her new landscaping of shrubberies and a little about family.
As we walked back into her office, I asked her if she ever heard of the term “Body Doubling.” Her eyes widened and she just about whispered, “No, what is that?”
Well, I began; I believe that is what we are doing right now.
Having a person who is present and acting like and anchor, not an active assistant, allows the other person to stay focused and ignore distractions. I asked her if she agreed that was what we were doing.
“Absolutely,” she said. “Having you here somehow gives me permission to finish what needs to be done, and I don’t feel the urge to walk away.”
She wanted to know if the practice was common or highly unusual.
I explained that it depended-sometimes it is woven into the organizing practice quite naturally and in other circumstances it is introduced right away. One thing that is certain is that body doubling is highly effective and actually mirrors what organizing looks like.
With this new-found understanding, it made it easier for my client to accept that her initial request was in essence a particular organizing practice. Body doubling offers alternative solutions for people to succeed in their organizing endeavors, when they recognize they are challenged with distraction.
It was safe to say, my client and I worked silently for the next hour and a half and when I left, she felt empowered and satisfied with her accomplishments.
-Patricia Diesel
Keep It Simple Now