Me & Marlo Thomas – Coping With Empty Nester

I watched the video and wanted to add my two cents, which may be different than others. When Jacob left for college at 18, I was ready for him to go. I was sure he would be fine. But when I did leave, he became beligerent which really forced my hand. In hind sight and after discussing the dynamic with him, he admits it is because he needs to feel in control so he can leave me. I have grown to understand and accept the dynamic. When we get together, we have a great time but I know that the separation will be rocky. We talk, chat, im, skype daily and they are always great conversations. I know my son loves me and he knows I love him. He just has a hard time separating.

My other son, Dan, 21 years old has special needs and will be moving out in July. This is the separation that worries me most. I have had sleepless nights over it. It is the final bird flying the nest and I will be alone for the first time in my life. I lived with my parents, in a dorm, with my older sister, my husband and then my kids. Come July I will be alone. I am contemplating a move to an apartment in a new city, closer to NYC, a new career and a new life. Alot of change for the entire family. I have birds flying around in my stomach. LOL. Hope this helps your blog followers.

Sandra

Hi Pat,

Such a hot button topic!  I’m not one to join in these conversations, but I have to say that this was one that I didn’t hesitate to join in on.

Hope you are well!

All the best, Rene’