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How to bring more ‘positivity’ into your life

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Let’s talk a little bit about “positivity”…

Positivity is the ability to meet challenges and situations in life with an “I can do it,” “I’ll figure it out,” “Things will work out,” attitude.

Now here’s the thing…

It’s not that people with positive attitudes don’t face the same disappointments, challenges and stressors in life that everyone else does.  Not at all.

The difference is that they choose to find a productive and positive way to cope and respond to challenges.

Studies have shown that positive thinking brings positive responses in your body which can boost your mood and diminish stress.

Again, we all have stressors in our life, but by practicing the power of positivity the more likely it will be that you will enjoy a sense of well-being.

Here’s a very powerful exercise you can do immediately to help you feel more positive:

  • Make a list (yes, write it down) of all the things that are going well in your life, of the things that bring you joy and the things you are grateful for.
  • Make an effort to read it first thing in the morning and before going to bed.  Also, place it in a place during the day where you can read it often.
  • Why is this important?  Because by focusing on the aspects of your life that are going well for you can promote a positive attitude in the rest of your life.

Now here’s a little suggestion.  If you are struggling right now and the idea of “positivity” seems far-fetched, it could be that you just need a little mental clarity.  So I’m going to invite you to schedule a FREE one-on-one call with me so I can explain how the mind clearing exercise (you know, the one that people are raving about) can be your new best friend.

Just click the link below and rest assured that soon you will feel lighter, have a sense of peace and yes, be  more positive.

CLICK HERE TO SCHEDULE YOUR CALL

Facing Your Clutter Demons

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Facing your clutter demons essentially means we must be willing to let go of the past in order to embrace the life that is waiting for us.

You see, behind the clutter is a story – your story.  Sometimes that story is truly lived out and holds special memories that can be both joyful and painful.  And then there’s the story that we tell ourselves – the story we wish would have happened and never did.  Either story can keep us locked up in the past if there are unresolved issues.

To resolve the clutter and put the story to rest it takes more than just clearing out your physical space. You have to look within and deal with the events that transpired in your life that keep  you imprisoned.  Although this may feel intimidating and uncomfortable for many, it’s the first step to uncovering what’s really behind the chaos.

It’s also important to understand why you are manifesting with clutter.  To manifest means you are demonstrating outwardly a feeling.  Emotional turmoil has no other choice but to come out.   Clutter is how you are choosing to release these emotions. Until the feelings are dealt with the clutter will continue to build.

Telling yourself that you have clutter because you are lazy or engaging in any other negative self-talk does not help your situation and only causes you to feel worse about it.  So although it may be true that you may be holding onto things because you feel sentimental, guilty, insecure etc., those are just external feelings that derive from the story.  Remember that!

It takes courage to face your demons.  Give yourself a huge pat on the back and credit for recognizing this!

Once you make peace with your past, de-cluttering your physical space is much easier.  This is because you are freeing yourself from the mental clutter that keeps you in conflict about holding on to your things.

There’s a new life out there to be lived.  It’s called clutter-free living.  And it’s waiting for you!

Interested in finding out how you can begin your new life?  CLICK HERE to schedule a free call with me.

 

 

 

 

CLUTTER; The Great Imposter

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CLUTTER

The Great Imposter

When Mary first contacted me, she told me she was feeling a lack of motivation and extremely overwhelmed due to her excessive clutter.  She was concerned that the clutter was getting out of control and it was making her feel anxious on top of everything else.

I explained to her that clutter is just an outward  manifestation of what a person is feeling.  The clutter can intensify these feelings, but the clutter is not the cause of her lack of motivation and overwhelm.

It’s not unusual for a person to think that their clutter is the cause of their emotional upheaval.

For example:  The clutter simply mirrors back what you are feeling about yourself.  So when Mary says the clutter is making her feel overwhelmed and unmotivated, what she’s really saying is that she’s feeling that way.

The way to overcome Mary’s clutter is to take a deeper look at what is causing her to feel this way.  By doing so, she will eventually get to the underlying reason (root cause) of her physical clutter.

This is a very important step in the process of healing oneself of clutter.  If you just try to “clean-up” the clutter without addressing the root cause, the clutter will come back.  This is why we call it the cycle of clutter.

Usually the clutter gets stronger with each cycle.

Although this can at first feel uneasy, I assured Mary that by showing up and facing her fears, it would lead her to a better understanding of what’s driving her to outwardly manifest. With this new understanding she would be able to gain a fresh perspective and learn how to deal with her emotions in a more positive, healthier way.

Clutter has many faces and can deceive a person into thinking many things – it’s why I refer to it as the Great Imposter.  But don’t be fooled.  Your clutter is just you, trying to get your attention.

If you’re looking for more information on how to resolve your clutter, I suggest you begin with my on-line mindfulness program that will take you through all the steps necessary to living a clutter-free life.

You can get that program HERE!

 

 

 

 

Life Recovery and You – Let’s Talk About It!

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Life Recovery and You – Let’s Talk About It!I could say that lately more and more people are curious about the topic of life recovery – but the truth is people have always been interested – they just did not typically talk about it so openly.I would like to change that.

We all experience life differently – but that does not mean we are immune from the winds of change.  It is within these changes we can find ourselves recovering from life.

I understand that change can bring about different emotions – primarily fear. Through the recovery process we can view change as an opportunity for possibilities.
Let’s talk about it!
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Tuesday’s Tips – 4/5/11 – What’s Your EQ?

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What’s Your EQ?

Join us in this week’s Tele-Class

Are You Emotionally Intelligent?

April 5, 2011 – 6:oo PM – 7:00 PM Eastern Time

Here’s the buzz about EQ and why I am offering this class.

First let me begin by saying that over the years, it has been my experience that 99.9% of my clients can get organized…once taught.

This means, getting organized is a skill set that can be learned – at any age, any time.

If my clients were struggling before we met, it was usually due to one or two reasons:

1)  They were never exposed to the skill set adequately and therefore felt insecure in their ability

or

2)  They just didn’t want to do it because of a belief system they integrated into their life.

Regardless of either reason, the client did not feel good about their emotional intelligence.

I have found that once they were exposed to EQ, they had better self-esteem, more confidence, the ability to get organized and feel more in control over their life.

And it is for this reason I am offering this class – I want more people to feel better!

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“If It’s Not Meeting A Need – Turn It Into A Seed”

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It’s true

We hold onto things because we have ourselves believing that one day we will use it.  Or, the memory of the object is so powerful we give it full permission to take over our emotions.

Then something funny happens – the things that we have been clinging to, you know,  the items we convince ourselves are so wonderful,  are no longer making us feel good – and in some cases, can actually make us feel pretty darn rotten.

Now we have created two problems – physical clutter from our stuff we are holding onto – and emotional clutter because of the stories we keep telling ourselves, producing guilt and anxiety.

So what to do, what to do…

Create a lifestyle of giving

Most clutter experts say…(yes, me included) that “if you haven’t used an item within the past year, give it away!”

Joel Osteen states in his book Your Best Life Now, that “If it’s not meeting a need, turn it into a seed.  We will reap what we sow.”

Consider this

The extra things that are in your basement, attic or garage – why not have a garage sale and see what you can sell at reasonable prices.  Don’t think that this isn’t helping people because it is.  There are plenty of people who need your stuff that simply cannot afford to buy new; books, baby items, clothes, kitchen utensils, tools.

Then whatever is left – donate to a favorite charity of yours or give it away to someone you personally know who is in need.  By doing this, I do believe you will see the benefits that far outweigh holding your items.

Unclutter Your Love

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February 3rd and 10th – 7 to 9 pm Cluttered Heart

Reveal how emotional clutter impacts your relationships in this ground breaking two night workshop!

Act Now for Early Registration Discount!
(expires Jan. 25th)

Register now for this exciting event and begin exposing the emotional aspects of clutter and how it impacts your relationships with loved ones. Topics to be covered will include:

  • Messy or neat….who wins?
  • How we may be expressing anger, sadness or disappointment through clutter
  • Exposing the real conflict
  • The strategy of compromise
  • How to set your boundaries without crossing the line
  • The secret to effective communication
  • Bridging the gap with humor
  • The powerful effect of happiness
  • Agreeing on a lifestyle that works for both of you
  • Asking yourself the tough questions

When: February 3rd & 10th – 7 to 9 pm

Where: Basking Ridge, NJ

Price: $199.99 EARLY REGISTRATION ONLY $99.99! (offer ends January 25th!)

Space is Limited: Limited to first 10 registrants

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