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When Decluttering Evokes Painful Memories

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When Decluttering Evokes Painful Memories

Although there is a sense of rebirth and freedom when decluttering your life – it is not always an easy process for someone who is grieving. There are many reasons why we may grieve; divorce or relationship break-up, empty nest, loss of a career, illness or death.

Sometimes we can unearth memories while decluttering which can be extremely emotional and trigger old wounds. When this happens, it can cause us to pause and reflect for awhile. Depending upon the severity of the grief will determine how much time is needed to get back on track.

In some circumstances, a grieving person will choose to declutter ruthlessly in an attempt to remove the pain caused by the loss. The thought is…better to be gone with it than to face a constant reminder of what I lost. While for others, the very onset of decluttering is like living the loss all over again and they become immobilized.

I offer strategies on how to cope with decluttering and grief in my book, Organically Yours; Open Yourself to a Vibrant Healthy Life.   If you or a loved one is struggling with grief, perhaps the book may be helpful. If you would prefer to get personalized help, please connect with me here.

Grief, Deep Grief, Can Make Decluttering Painful.

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Sometimes during the process of decluttering we can unearth unexpected memories, which can be very emotional.  Old photographs, music and art can trigger an old memory of trauma like a romantic break-up or divorce, a loss of a career, an empty nest or the loss of a loved one.

Grief, deep grief, can make the decluttering process especially painful.  Sometimes a grieving person will choose to declutter ruthlessly in an attempt to remove the pain caused by the loss. Better to have empty room than to face a constant reminder of what I lost.

Mentally, they decide that it would be preferable to have it done, in a sort of ’emotional amputation.’  For others, they are simply not ready.  When they try to get rid of something that belongs to the loved one, it is like that person is dying all over again.  If you are grieving, please be compassionate with yourself.

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A Lesson In Life

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A Lesson In Life

Whenever my mom would came across reading material she found meaningful enough to share, she would clip it out and save it until the time was appropriate.

It’s one of the many things I loved about her.

I speak in past tense because my mom suffers from an awful disease that we call “Alzheimer’s.” 

It has robbed her memory, changed her quality of life and invaded her privacy.  For this, I am grief stricken.  It is a disease that affects all – all that choose to love and support her.

It has been over a year now that I have carried around this beautiful message – A Lesson In Life .  I found it while cleaning out my parent’s vacation home.  I now feel a desire to share it with you.

My hope is that you gain inner strength and peace from reading it.

My best always,

Patricia

 

A Lesson In Life

A Lesson In Life

Everything happens for a reason.  Nothing happens by chance or by means of good or bad luck.

Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul.  Without these small tests, if they be events, illnesses or relationships, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere.

If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them.  For they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to who you open your heart to.

If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because they are teaching you to love and opening your heart and eyes to things you would have never seen or felt without them.

Make every day count.  Appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again.

Talk to people you have never talked to before, and actually listen.  Hold your head up because you have every right to.  Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you either.

You can make of your life anything you wish.  Create your own life and then go out and live it!

~Anonymous