Darling, You’re Tougher Than You Think!

Life can be tough darling, but you know what?  So are you!

It takes courage to face our demons and deal with repressed or unconscious aspects of our personality.  But the flip side is that there is a life of freedom when we do.

It is through awareness and understanding, we recognize our unconscious actions, so as not to become a victim to the programmed patterns which accompany them.

In a nutshell, if we truly want to be free from the source of our suffering; fears, insecurities, doubts,  negative beliefs, we must be willing to let go of the past in order to embrace the life that is waiting for us.

The same thing holds true for clutter. Facing your demons is the only way to resolve the clutter for good.  Just clearing out your physical space will not take care of the problem.

If you’re interested in learning more about facing your clutter demons, check out my blog post by CLICKING HERE.

CLUTTER; The Great Imposter


The Great Imposter

When Mary first contacted me, she told me she was feeling a lack of motivation and extremely overwhelmed due to her excessive clutter.  She was concerned that the clutter was getting out of control and it was making her feel anxious on top of everything else.

I explained to her that clutter is just an outward  manifestation of what a person is feeling.  The clutter can intensify these feelings, but the clutter is not the cause of her lack of motivation and overwhelm.

It’s not unusual for a person to think that their clutter is the cause of their emotional upheaval.

For example:  The clutter simply mirrors back what you are feeling about yourself.  So when Mary says the clutter is making her feel overwhelmed and unmotivated, what she’s really saying is that she’s feeling that way.

The way to overcome Mary’s clutter is to take a deeper look at what is causing her to feel this way.  By doing so, she will eventually get to the underlying reason (root cause) of her physical clutter.

This is a very important step in the process of healing oneself of clutter.  If you just try to “clean-up” the clutter without addressing the root cause, the clutter will come back.  This is why we call it the cycle of clutter.

Usually the clutter gets stronger with each cycle.

Although this can at first feel uneasy, I assured Mary that by showing up and facing her fears, it would lead her to a better understanding of what’s driving her to outwardly manifest. With this new understanding she would be able to gain a fresh perspective and learn how to deal with her emotions in a more positive, healthier way.

Clutter has many faces and can deceive a person into thinking many things – it’s why I refer to it as the Great Imposter.  But don’t be fooled.  Your clutter is just you, trying to get your attention.

If you’re looking for more information on how to resolve your clutter, I suggest you begin with my on-line mindfulness program that will take you through all the steps necessary to living a clutter-free life.

You can get that program HERE!





It’s All In The Mind

It’s All In The Mind

You may have heard how positive thinking is important to your mental health and also one of  the keys to The Law of Attraction.

But did you know that Neuroscience Research shows you can actually reprogram your brain?

So for people who have been trying to declutter their lives without success due to overwhelm, fear and procrastination, this can be very helpful.

In my Mindful Tools for Organized Living I dedicate an entire module to mind shifting so you can learn:

  • How to break old habits and build new ones
  • How to get rid of negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones
  • How to quickly and easily change your thoughts to a winner’s mindset

With the right tools and conscious effort, you can start thinking like a conqueror of clutter, and crush that negative self-talk.For example, instead of saying to yourself,  ” I’ll never get out from under all of this mess.  Who am I kidding, I’ll always have clutter.”

You will learn how to cancel out negativity and replace it with positive words like,
” I may have been disorganized in the past, but that was then and this is now.  I love being clutter-free.”

You owe it to yourself to open your mind and learn new strategies to live a healthier, clutter-free life.

Begin today and watch your mind shift and your life transform!

Regret, Guilt, Worry – How To Overcome Negative Emotions

Can you recall a time when something in your life didn’t go right?  Do you wish things would have turned out differently and now you have regrets over it?  You’re not alone – many people feel this way – including myself.

I have been such a planner all my life that it was difficult for me to stay in the present moment. I can recall many circumstances where I was always reaching or looking over the fence. I didn’t know how to enjoy or appreciate what was right in front of me. I know this has caused me to miss out on a lot.

So yes, I have regrets, but it’s not wise to live there. The problem is that regret is like carrying around heavy baggage – it’s a heavy load to carry.  All that heavy energy can get in the way and tangled up in other emotions of guilt and worry – not a healthy combination.

What we want is to be able to create new energy to move forward.

Here are three tips to help you let go of the past and live in the present.

Tip # 1:  Show Yourself  A Little Love

How would you show love to someone you cared for who was going through a difficult time?  Compassion and empathy are two words that pop into mind.  Try doing the same for yourself.  We’re human and we are going to make mistakes – that’s part of life.  One of the biggest gifts you can give yourself is to treat yourself kindly.  Forgiveness is another important aspect to creating new energy – we’re not perfect beings and that’s okay.  Beef up the love.

Tip #2:  Keep The Faith

We don’t always understand the “bigger” picture in life – the “grand” scheme of things.  Although we wish we had a crystal ball to see into the future – the truth is we don’t really know what tomorrow may bring.  This is why we need to keep the faith alive and trust in GOD – or in other words, the Grand Overall Design.  Knowing that in time, all things will get better.

Tip #3:  Make It A Learning Experience

It’s so easy to get caught up in the moment of what didn’t go right, that we neglect to see what else happened in that experience.  Usually there are little golden nuggets if we look close enough to learn from the situation and make us better for it.    So the question is, What can you learn from a past experience that can make you better today?

Bonus Tip:

Remember, you don’t want to pull that heavy load a minute longer – here’s how to draw the line when you’re dwelling in the past on all that negativity.  You simply need to remember to LEAVE IT IN THE PAST.  That was then, this is NOW!  Let it GO!  I mean it…really, let it go for good and free yourself.  By doing so, you will be taking a huge step to living in the PRESENT!






Change Your Ways

It’s not always easy to just “change” our ways. Especially when we have been in the habit of doing the same thing over and over. The problem is that by not changing our “ways” we end up with the same results. This can leave us feeling disappointed when we are trying to achieve a life changing goal. 


Something that I found instrumental when I set out to “change” something is to figure out what is required of myself to make that change happen successfully.  By asking, ‘What am I currently doing that could be interfering with the progress of change?’  (What habit, routine, or pattern is blocking me from the change I so desire?) has been very helpful in identifying the inner work that I need to do.  When I am able to see that clearly, it helps me get realistic about the change I am seeking and how to go about it.


The key here is to think about how to break things down into a formula so the change doesn’t feel so overwhelming.  By looking inward first, we can then begin to take the outward steps that will lead us to the course of successful change.


Life Recovery and You – Let’s Talk About It!

Life Recovery and You – Let’s Talk About It!I could say that lately more and more people are curious about the topic of life recovery – but the truth is people have always been interested – they just did not typically talk about it so openly.I would like to change that.

We all experience life differently – but that does not mean we are immune from the winds of change.  It is within these changes we can find ourselves recovering from life.

I understand that change can bring about different emotions – primarily fear. Through the recovery process we can view change as an opportunity for possibilities.
Let’s talk about it!
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With love,

How To Live Worry Free

Life is filled with uncertainty, wouldn’t you agree?

We do not know what the future may bring or how prepared we will be for what may happen. If we allow ourselves, we can worry excessively about things we do not have any control over.
There are countless things most of us feel anxious about right now – jobs, relationships, finances, health, etc., and of course the “what-ifs” of life. And, once again, most of us carry this burden with us on a daily basis, feeling overwhelmed and powerless.
Are you plagued with anxiety?

And I don’t mean the occasional stress that knocks on our door occasionally. What’ I’m talking about is the non-stop, hovering over you like a cloud type of stress. In other words, are you living a lifestyle of anxiety?
Studies have shown, and quite frankly, my experience has also shown, that this kind of worry robs us of living the life we deserve. It’s as if a thief comes into our inner space and steals our peace and joy. This endless cycle of worry, if left unchecked can affect our health.

Many people, unfortunately do not choose to do anything about this cycle until they are in a complete state of overwhelm – making it difficult for them to function. Some, seek out solutions that will only provide a temporary fix with no long term resolution, thinking that eventually the excessive worry will just “go-away.”
I believe it is necessary to address the root causes of our anxiety. Fear happens to be just one of the root causes. When we are fearful we typically “react” to stressful situations instead of responding. We immediately and directly go to the “dread” of what could happen in the future or perhaps doubt our ability to handle the situation. Whatever the cause of our fear, we can see that the problem is our focus.
What are you focusing on?
Do you immediately go to the “what if” of what can possibly go wrong or do seek out the underlying “cause” so you can find solutions and resolve?
If you would like to find alternative ways to lead a productive and peaceful life perhaps my class tomorrow evening would be a great first step….
Won’t you join me?






Are You Still Holding On?

Are you still holding on to old ways yet yearning for a new way?  Think about that for a moment…yes, yes, think about that.
Holding On & Letting Go

Let me help you simplify this in the bigger picture, so to speak.Neale Donald Walsch said this and I believe he is spot on…He said,

“That yearning for a new way will not produce it.  Only ending the old way can do that.

You cannot hold onto the old all the while declaring that you want something new.

The old will defy the new;
the old will deny the new;
the old will decry the new.

There is only one way to bring in the new.

You must make room for it.”

Allow me to share something with you if I may…You see, I know what it feels like to let go.  I believe it’s a very intimate process one experiences when they release and end something.I also recognize that it can be difficult for people to let go or end something because they are fearful of the unknown.  They are not sure of what their outcome will be and worry if it will be better, worse, or if they will end up regretting their decision.

So inevitably they do nothing. 

But what most people don’t realize is that not to decide is to decide.  You are deciding to do nothing – so it’s still a decision.

Ask yourself:

  • What are you deciding right now by not deciding?
  • What are you choosing by failing to choose?

As Jack Canfield suggests:

“Sometimes people stay stuck because they fall into a dangerous trap of settling for less than they deserve in the name of gratitude.”

Here are some examples:
“Rather than taking action and asking for a raise… they say, “Well, I should be grateful I have a job.”

“Rather than taking action and asking for what they want in a relationship… they say, “Well, I should be grateful that my partner is faithful.”

“Rather than taking action and looking for a bigger house… they say, “Well, I should be grateful that I have a house when so many people don’t.”

Here’s the thing, friends… 

  • Wanting more doesn’t mean that you’re ungrateful or greedy.
  • Letting go and releasing the old allows for a grander, better life.
  • Making room for the new creates the opportunity for you to express and demonstrate your higher self.

It is time now.  It’s time to make a decision.  You don’t want to live your life by default, do you?  Here is your signal – take it!

Simplicity Is A Sign Of Growth

“Going Back To A Simpler Life Is Not A Step Backward” – Yvon Chouinard said that and he was right.

Simplicity Is A Sign Of Growth
It’s important to understand that “letting go” is part of the process of going back to a simpler life.  It is not in any way a reflection of you failing to achieve or hold onto “something.”  That’s not what we are talking about here.

It takes courage to simplify one’s life.  Did you hear that?  It takes courage to simplify one’s life.  Real courage to “let go” and be free of the things you may have considered important or special at one time.

Recognizing that your “things” may no longer be serving you (and can actually be holding you back from living life to the fullest) is a true sign of personal growth.  There’s a lot to be said about a person who can relinquish the old and welcome the new; even if they aren’t sure what that may look like.

I see way too often people who struggle with the notion that “letting go” is somehow a sign of weakness or giving up.  This can be to their detriment as it propels them into a perpetual state of fear because they simply cannot bear the thought they may be “losing.”  But you see there is no loss with simplicity. Simplicity offers freedom of all that was but no longer is.  So how can one lose when one becomes free?  You simply cannot.

The process of purging one’s life is powerful.  A process fully embellished with tender moments of self-discovery.  An internal treasure hunt if you please.

Tell me, what’s more beautiful than that?

A Man Needs To Know

A man needs to know
A man needs to know that he’s bad and he’s good,
He can be what he hopes, he can be understood.
A man needs to feel he can conquer a fall,
For a man who can kneel has the strength to stand tall.
A man needs to know he can share and confide,
Even though he’s frightened way down deep inside.
For sometimes a man must sink terribly low,
Before he discovers how high he can go.
A man needs to know at the end of his rope,
He can handle his fears; he can build on his hope.
A man must believe he can change when he must,
He can learn to receive; he can learn how to trust.
And why must a man feel afraid and alone,
When each of us has the same fears of his own.
For sometimes a man must sink terribly low,
Before he discovers how high he can go.
A man has to live when it’s painful to try,
For a man needs to laugh and a man needs to cry.
A man has a need to strive and prevail,
He must learn to succeed and find out why he failed.
To carry his crown and to fill-up his cup,
Sometimes he drops down so that he can reach up.
For sometimes a man must sink terribly low,
Before he discovers how high he can go.

Written by the late Walter Brennan:

(~from Bob Proctor)